To all my fellow type-A busybodies out there, let's talk. I just had a juicy realization during a session.
My lovely client, we'll call her Grace, came to me looking to change the way she responds when triggered. Like so many of us, Grace has had reactionary moments in her career (biting off the head of an employee who has royally screwed up) that send her into a shame spiral. After her last round of Energy Edits, she manifested and started an incredible new dream job. Grace noticed fears coming up about “failing” at her desire to keep calm and carry on.
During our session, we found the root cause of her trigger was her judgment on her own “failures.” When success is so tightly wound around a specific outcome, it's nearly impossible to be in flow! In order to release it, we focused on the ways we can shift the high bar of expectations Grace has been setting for herself since she was a little girl.
What if instead of a Goal => Destination
We move to Goal => Guide.
Stay with me here...you all know I'm big on goals and feeling the wish fulfilled. I deeply believe in the Law of Attraction this is just a twist that helped me.
Small Tweaks...
1. An end result (goal) is merely a means to get us on the right path. When we set a goal that is not realized, it doesn't mean we failed! Remember, we are EXACTLY where we are supposed to be! The initial goal is the Inspo to start the journey! Feel the freedom of letting the details of the goal go and trusting that it's the feeling that you're after. The story (details) just helps us get to the feeling! (If I've lost you, email me and I'll break it down!)
2. If you're hitting all of your goals, you aren't dreaming BIG enough! (Not my quote but one that I cling to.) Don't you dare play small!!! This also means you can't "should" on yourself when you don't hit 100%. Be nice to you!
3. TRUST that if you are meant to hit that exact mark, YOU WILL. Things rarely line up exactly as we think they will. THANKFULLY! Imagine how bored you'd be if everything always went as planned...snooze!
So, to my planners and expectation setters, Keep Going!!! I know it feels soothing and gives you the (false!) sense of security that you're in charge. Maybe add a little flavor by trusting that the Universe not only has your back (it does) - it will also fill your life with surprise and delight that you would not have known to imagine.
Reply and tell me what your goals are!!!
What are you creating? What are you bringing in? What are you letting go of? Write them down so we can look back in 1-year, 3-years, 10-years and laugh about what you thought you wanted that ended up setting you on a journey FAR greater than what you were planning.
Sending tons of love,
Lizzi
